Relationships. A necessary evil?

This random piece of writing is inspired by a recent entry on a friend's blog. Frustrated and angry at that moment he used some caustic humor to call our attention to the follies of relationships and the boys/girls/men/women that get involved in them.

So I wondered (as I often have and I'm sure many of you have too)- Why are relationships so hard? Do we even need them?

Seems like every kind of relationship we have formed, in this era, needs work-- friends, lovers, parents, grandparents, uncles/aunts, roomates, siblings, children, professors, the office chaiwalla, the local deli owner even our enemies are pretty demanding of the hate-hate relationship we have going with them.

Why? was it always like this. Doesn't seem like that to me.

Marriges worked (or so it seemed), children revered and respected their parents, siblings were loved, grandparents were honored, children were applauded and our chaiwallas didn't dilute our tea. Divorces were a tabboo and affairs were kept secret. Children were told they had to love and respect their elders.

As time progresses, people get busier, more ambitious, and more selfish their needs and expectations increase without the realization that they are asking for too much and giving too little in return. After all relationships are a give-give situation (in most cases) not a give-take (expect for most mommies coz I think a mother's love is unconditional).

In this fast paced, instantaneous world where we look for quick fix solutions from the common cold to food to mental disorders and marriages and relationships we are losing the will, time, patience and energy to keep trying.

So? So what now? So now what? Who knows...I say keep going at it. For the tough times in a relationship there are exponentially happy and comforting times. I don't think there ever can be a good enough, satisfying quick fix solution for our need for companionship.

At the end of the day that's what we seek out in some way or the other to soothe our souls...after all no man is an Island no?

guess we need eachother and the necessary evils of relationships. Tee hee.

My first musings...

After months of procrastination in starting a blog I finally did it. Made the jump, took the leap, hopped onto the free ride. This blog was supposed to be a July baby (just like me!) but alas the thoughts decided to marinate in the womb of my mind for a few more months before I got the final push from a friend who suggested "hey why don't you start a blog too." So I finally did; after some thoughtful labor emerged my baby blog. It's new, its innocent, its fresh. It's still got a long journey ahead of it- it will be filled with laughter and sorrow, randomness and specifics, nothing and everything.
I wanted to start the blog this July because it was another new beginning in my life ...I was moving into a new city, a new job, new people. Leaving behind the familiar comfort of places and people whom i had grown with in the past few years. Suddenly this July I found myself all alone and the blog was supposed to be a way for me to pen down the barrage of thoughts that were going through my head every minute of the day. Alas it didn't happen then and maybe that's a good thing. Because I'm in a happier place now, than I was back in July. It would have made all my writings sound ranty and bitter and depressingly philosophical.
I made an exciting new beginning in July and all was going well except in my confused head and heart. I didn't fully enjoy everything coming my way becuase I was too self absorbed in my self created misery, wrapped up in my delicate emotional bubble. Things are better now- not 'purrfect', not resolved, the cycles come and go but you take it as it comes and tell yourself to smile till that silly face just takes over and you're strumming your fingers on an air guitar and humming a tune as you race through the bustle of Grand Central to make your local.
I'm content after a good home cooked meal (where I almost set the kitchen on fire ) and I smile... la di da la di da...here's to another manic Monday. Achoooooooo!

I'm finally a blogger !

So i'm a few technological light years behind when it comes to matters of the web and I just hopped onto this strange, colourful and infinite merry-go-round called 'blogging' . Well so here I am, better late than never. Making my manic thoughts, my clumsy mistakes and my 'naive' nonetheless interesting musings accessible to friends and strangers. Sigh ! So Welcome me i'm finally here.